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The best Carl Sagan books to read in 2020

Carl Sagan wrote a lot of books. For many people he was the gateway to science and encouraged a mindset of curiosity and eagerness to learn.

He had an almost unnatural ability to break down and explain even the most complex of topics into understandable nuggets of information. A cool example of this is his Flatland presentation, where Sagan explains a concept that is impossible to imagine – the 4th dimension – and somehow makes it understandable.

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5 Fun Facts about The Kiss by Gustav Klimt

The Kiss by Gustav Klimt is an oil painting completed in 1907 or 1908. The painting was completed by the Austrian Symbolist painter named Gustav Klimt and it’s actually the most famous piece of Klimt art. It’s a beautiful piece that has quite a story behind it and there are a lot of tidbits about the painting that aren’t quite as well-known as the image of the artwork.

 

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The Only List of Life Mottos You Will Need

Having one or more personal mottos can enrich your life in more ways than one.

A good motto can help you come to a decision. For instance, you’ll want to know how much (or how little) you should keep trying to master a skill.

You may be an impulsive person, in this case a calming and thoughtful motto can help you take a step back, clear your mind and make a decision when you’re in better spirits.

Other times, you may need a motto to guide you through the hard moments in life, when your efforts don’t seem to connect and you’re wondering what to do.

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3 Reasons To Wait for Someone You Love (and 4 not to)

Is it worth waiting for someone you love?

Most people would say it is a black and white problem: “never wait for someone, you are too precious to do that; if they love you, they will come”.

Self-respect is an awesome thing to have. but there are some situations which are truly hard to navigate and require time and effort to get out of. Only after can a person commit.

It’s one thing to wait for a person who makes an honest effort for you, but quite another to wait for somebody who doesn’t seem to care.

Another thing to keep in mind is that waiting for someone allows to clear your mind and figure out if you yourself actually like that person. It could just be a temporary moment of passion that will quickly evaporate once you get over it.

3 reasons to wait for someone

1.      They are making a true effort to come to you

New relationships are very fragile in the initial stages of courtship. They become even more uncertain when the other person cannot commit 100% because of the circumstances in their life; think moving and setting up in another city, family obligations, long work hours, temporary long distance situations etc.

Should you wait for him / her in this case?

Maybe you’ve got it wrong and the real question isn’t if you should wait or not.

A better way to look at things is to consider these initial challenges as tests of character and commitment.

If the other person is making a genuine effort to solve their problems and come towards you, that is a major green flag. It shows that they are both capable of solving tricky relationship issues in the future, and that they like you enough to hold on.

The same logic applies to you as well. Chances are your crush is also looking for signs of support, a confirmation that his or her efforts aren’t being wasted.

2.      They clearly communicate their intentions and commitment

Sometimes you can meet the one right after a difficult moment, such as an ugly breakup or other forms of emotional trauma.

You’re ready to commit, but the other person isn’t. They’re still figuring out their emotions and are unsure if they like you or not.

The best approach in this case is to wait and see how they communicate. A green flag is if they make it clear at all times how they feel about you, and warn you not to invest too much. This shows they care and don’t want you to get attached too quickly, too early and risk hurting yourself. They respect you enough to not use you as a backup or emotional crutch.

In these types of situations it can end either way. But you have the privilege of making an informed decision.

3.      You know the type of person you want, just haven’t found it yet

Should you wait for the right person, or should you settle for someone that is “just right” for you? Popular wisdom says you should hold out and wait for “the one”, but there are a few major considerations:

1) How well do you know yourself and what type of person do you feel compatible with? A common approach to this question is “I’ll know it when I see it”, but having a few well-defined criteria can go a long way into figuring out the type of person you can see yourself with.

2) How can you make the relationship awesome? Relationships become fulfilling thanks to the efforts of both people involved.  It won’t really matter much that you’ve found the one if you can’t carry the relationship from your end as well.

3) By having a clearly defined type, you’d be doing other people a favor by not wasting their time.

The only major downside of waiting for someone you can love is if your criteria are too restrictive, which leads to rejecting people you might otherwise be compatible with.

4 reasons NOT to wait for someone

You’re waiting for them to breakup with someone

To a large degree, who we fall in love with can be an uncontrollable reaction. Sometimes, this can lead to falling in love with someone already in a relationship.

Should you wait for them to breakup and be with you instead? When it comes to love there are no absolutes, however there are a few major reasons why you shouldn’t wait for someone already in a relationship.

For instance, you’ll never know if the relationship is ever going to end or not. Because of this, you risk missing out on someone who is just as compatible with you (if not more so) than the person you’re waiting for.

They are in a relationship with someone else and involved with you at the same time

The situation becomes even more complicated if you’re already emotionally or physically involved with them.

They may be leading you on, promising a potential relationship as a way of keeping you around. Even if they do breakup, you have no guarantee they won’t move behind your back as well.

They already had the love of their life, and it isn’t you

Should you wait for someone to sort out their feelings after a nasty breakup? The answer is: it depends. Most people do need a cool off period after the end of a relationship, especially if it was a committed one.

However, some relationships are much harder to recover from than others and require extensive time and emotional support to get over them.

If the other person hasn’t fully resolved his or her emotional baggage, you risk becoming an emotional crutch and entering a rebound relationship.

The other person won’t truly see you as an equal romantic partner, but more as an emotional distraction, someone who can keep their mind occupied while they figure things out.

As a result, chances are they won’t even treat you with the respect you deserve. For instance, they can draw painful comparisons such as “my ex was better because they did X”. Other times can copy paste behaviors or routines from the past relationship, into the one they have with you (even if you don’t like them).

However, the idea of mending a broken heart and waiting for someone to figure out they actually love you is very seductive. Unfortunately, chances are very high things won’t turn out that way.

Even if the other person does make an effort to treat you kindly, there is a good chance they will come to the conclusion that the two of you aren’t that compatible. Or that they need more space.

“I’m not ready for a relationship (with you)”

If there’s one phrase that’s a clear signal not to wait for someone, then that would be “I’m not ready for a relationship”, since it is just a very polite rejection of a relationship with you. It’s one of those weird phrases that means something else entirely than what it actually says.

Ultimately, there’s really no point in waiting for the person to be ready, because they’ve already made up their minds. They just try to make the problem about them so as to not hurt you, which is commendable, even if not fully straightforward.

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5 profound meanings to “I know that I know nothing”

A good friend of Socrates, once asked the Oracle at Delphi “is anyone wiser than Socrates?”

The Oracle answered “No one.”

This greatly puzzled Socrates, since he claimed to possess no secret information or wise insight. As far as Socrates was concerned, he was the most ignorant man in the land.

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Limerence test, causes, symptoms & how to not go crazy

Have you ever caught yourself falling in love with someone you rationally know you really, really, really shouldn’t fall for, but can’t do anything to stop it?

If yes, you’ve experienced the painfully magical emotional state of limerence.

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The Only List of Best Philosophy Books You Will Ever Need

How to read philosophy books: 4 things to know

1) Philosophy is the root of almost all sciences

In the early days of history, almost all human knowledge could fit into a single academic discipline, and that was philosophy.

As we accumulated more and more knowledge, thinkers started to specialize in particular areas, since they couldn’t accumulate all existing knowledge.

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Flow theory, creative flow states & how to get in the zone

Have you ever lost yourself completely in an enjoyable activity, to the point where you lost track of time? It can feel almost like meditation, and all of your ideas and actions come together naturally and without effort.

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17 Interpersonal Communication Skills that Persuade Anyone

Interpersonal communication is the process of sharing information between two or more people or groups, through verbal, written and non-verbal channels.

While all of us do this on a daily basis, a brief overview of the 6 major components of interpersonal communication and their interplay will go a long way in understanding how people send and receive information.

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Ultimate Guide to Going Out Alone to Bars, Concerts & Movies

Going out alone can be strange. Especially if it’s not something you’ve done before. You’ll  feel uncomfortable by yourself in a crowd, but that’s normal. And don’t worry, the awkwardness will fade quicker than you think.

On the bright side, this is the perfect way to get out of your comfort zone and have adventures you wouldn’t have had otherwise.

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